It is likely that you are experiencing one or more of the following difficulties;

• Constant arguing and hurtful exchanges that are hard to control
• You don’t seem to make progress because the same issues keep coming up
• You are communicating in ways that make it harder to understand each other
• You have lost your closeness and connection
• There is a loss of trust because of betrayal
• Discussions escalate into proving who is right or wrong
• There is a lack of intimacy and sex life
• You have been thinking about ending the relationship or fear your partner will leave

We recognize there are many ways to be in relationship/s and welcome couples who identify as:

• Heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bi-, queer, and questioning,
• Cis, non-binary,  trans gendered, or gender nonconforming
• Monogamous, polyamorous,
• Married, unmarried, with children, and without

We understand that you did not start your relationship with arguing, blaming, emotional distance, and betrayal, but had hope, excitement, and loving feelings.

There seems to be a time in all relationships when challenges arise. This occurs as you notice differences and behaviour that you don’t like. When this happens you likely experience disappointment and anxiety that can feel very threatening to the relationship.

How you deal with this transition affects whether you begin to break the original emotional bond or strengthen it. Over time partners develop dynamics and strategies to deal with feeling threatened or anxious.

At Turning Point we are guided by and trained in a number of therapy approaches and we continue to stay updated on research about what works in our relationships today.   These include Relational Life Therapy by Terry Real, Developmental Couples Counselling developed by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson,  Gottman Approach, Emotionally Focused Therapy by Sue Johnson, and work by Ester Perel, and Stan Tatkin.