Posts Tagged ‘intrusion’
Intrusion or Neglect?
I have been thinking about the continuum between neglect and intrusion. These aspects are present in every relationship to some degree most of the time. As we set a boundary with our partner they may crash into it! Some of us are more sensitive to intrusion while others are sensitive to neglect. Neither are pleasant! You could say that both responses are a form of neglect as they disregard the needs of the other. So from this perspective, neglect on it’s own is a message that you do not exist for me. From some of the research we know that a ‘lack of response’ to your partner is more detrimental to the relationship’s success than being mean and critical (intrusion). It seems that it is better to be seen negatively than not at all!