Are you tired of fighting all the time?
Turn conflicts into understanding.

Have you ….
 

* Lost trust and intimacy?
* Difficulty understanding each other?
* Fear that your partner will leave?
* Found discussions degenerate into proving who is right?
 

You may want to check out the video of Delyse talking about relationship trauma and the impact on our lives HERE

Relationship counselling can help.

You may feel that your relationship is just too hard and causes more pain than it is worth. You may be asking yourself how did we become so far apart?  All relationships experience difficulties and challenges. But you may be feeling stuck in a cycle that has developed as you try to deal with these challenges.

Instead of feeling that you are progressing and learning from each other you end up feeling distant, angry, resentful, hurt, misunderstood, and alone in your relationship.

Making a commitment

For years I experienced overwhelming fears that prevented me from making any kind of commitment to my girlfriend. I felt absolutely stuck, continuously getting closer and further apart, closer and further apart …. and I felt frustrated … so I decided to get the help of a counsellor. Delyse helped me through individual counselling and helped me and my partner in marriage counselling sessions as a couple. With Delyse's help, I was able to make great progress in discovering and experiencing the root cause of my fears and to eventually dissolve my fears to the point where I was able to make a commitment I actually wanted. MY girlfriend also discovered fears of her own and was then able to address them! We are also new parents to a brand new baby boy! I highly recommend Delyse as a counsellor who has the experience, insight and approach to help with the problems of an individual or couple.' Keith Vancouver BC

When we are hurt by those we care about, it is easy to want to hide aspects of yourself and shut down -  You may feel that you have to defend yourself against any criticism and conflict becomes a minefield. It is easy to end up reacting with blame, and when you experience differences between you and your partner it feels like the relationship will fall apart.

Your relationship doesn't have to be a struggle.

It may sound hard to believe, but no matter how disillusioned you feel about your relationship, there is hope. Couples therapy has helped countless people to overcome these difficulties and find a renewed connection.

With my guidance and support, we will create a safe environment to help you see each other and understand your differences. You will discover how to talk about emotionally charged topics without exploding or withdrawing. Ultimately you will learn to deepen your intimacy and find renewed pleasure in each other.

Facing the past can improve relationships

Counselling helped me achieve a new viewpoint and understanding about my life – to cut myself some slack and realize that much of the pressure I find myself under is exerted by me! Delyse was able to help me find the ways I had hidden to my own Pandora's box and it wasn't frightening at all – a little sad sometimes, but not scary.Delyse helped me recognize things that had influenced my life were 'influences' only but that I still remained in charge of the final decisions. I have experienced renewed enthusiasm about what I can accomplish within relationships that I already enjoy! ' Ruby.

What I offer

1) I have worked with hundreds of couples and spent the past 15 years studying the dynamics of relationships. Helping people develop satisfying relationships is my passion. My training includes Emotionally Focused Therapy, and the Developmental Approach to couples by Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson.

 2) My approach involves:

• Spending the first few sessions making sure we do a thorough assessment of where you are in your relationship, how you have evolved to where you are, what are your individual goals for your relationship, and what needs to change. We will together develop a plan for the work.
• You will learn about how relationships develop and where you may be stuck. You will learn effective tools for communicating so that you can really hear what each other is saying. You will receive homework in between sessions to keep working on your relationship.
• I work with you to help you understand the sensitivities you both bring into the relationship, that cause you react in ways that create distance between you. You will learn to repair hurts and express appreciations.

3) I have a vast experience with many different types of relationships such as; Same Sex couples those in alternative lifestyles such as polyamory and open relationships, relationships that are dealing with infidelity, grief, mental illness, and non-traditional sex roles.

4) I have been married for a number of years, so know first hand the challenges of relationships and what is involved in creating a successful healthy relationship.

Making your relationship a priority takes time and investment.

Perhaps you have been unhappy for years and keep saying to yourself that you have no reason to feel the way that you do. You may desperately hope that things will just get better if you give it enough time, or that it is all in the past so why should it still bother me?

Reaching out can be the biggest hurdle, especially if you have learned to deal with things by yourself. You might feel that going to see a counsellor is a weakness and feel embarrassed. Or you might feel you have let yourself down because you could not do it by yourself. But it is actually the opposite!

When you make that call to improve your relationship you are taking charge! You are saying I want and deserve to be happy in my relationship.